A note to the patient’s spouse, significant other, or family members:

The person you care about has chosen to undergo cosmetic surgery to improve

their appearance, boost their self-esteem, and increase their happiness. For some patients,

the days and weeks after surgery can be a challenging experience both physically and

emotionally. And while you obviously care about the patient, you may not be aware of

the significant role you will play in their recovery.

All operations will require at least a few days where the patient’s activities will be

decreased. Anything you can do to alleviate daily chores and obligations during these

first few days will help speed the patient’s recovery. Many patients try to minimize the

impact that surgery will have on their lifestyle. They don’t want their spouse, significant

other, or family members to be inconvenienced. But patients who rest after surgery get

better faster. This is not the time to make plans for parties, dinner out, or having guests


You may not realize it, and the patient may not admit it, but activities such as

these place additional burdens on the patient when they need to use those energies to help

recover. The patient needs to take it easy for the first few days after surgery. The doctor

will give you more specific instructions depending on the particular operation, but all

patients need to rest during this initial period.

The patient also needs your support for their emotional recovery after surgery; a

process that can take several months as nature completes the healing process. It is easy to

understand why this is a difficult time emotionally for the patient. They went through this

surgery to look better and at first because of bruising and swelling they often look worse.

It is also natural for the patient to make judgements about the results of surgery and they

will also be very interested in the response of others to the changes in their appearance.

The most important thing you can do for the patient is to reassure him or her that they

look good and with each passing day or week reassure them that they look better. What

may seem like an inconsequential or joking remark on your behalf is often interpreted as

dissatisfaction or rejection by the patient. They need your approval at this time. The

easiest way to make their recovery as emotionally painless as possible (as well as making

your relationship as frictionless as possible) is to be supportive and complimentary. If

you have a concern, ask the doctor on the side. He’ll be happy to address your concerns.

Don’t increase the patient’s anxiety by pointing out swelling, asymmetry, etceteras that in

all likelihood will only be temporary.

Thanks for taking the time to read this letter. And remember, if you have any

questions, don’t hesitate to call us.


Dr.David Shokrian